Saturday, November 17, 2012

Girl with a Handbag!




Hi all the lovely people out there!

Am sure at some point of the time, you must have tried guessing what’s there in a girl’s handbag that she never lets you touch it? She compromises on most of the things, and share every bit of gossips She tells you everything, loves you and is loyal to you too but when it comes to touching her handbag, she gets offended. I think of myself as a perfect example for a 'Girl with a Handbag!' I just cannot leave home without a handbag! So, a little eye- opener for you, here.

While sitting at a coffee shop recently, I and a friend of mine were literally fighting over the importance of a woman’s handbag in her life. I know that's a lame topic to discuss but then we are a little crazy. He then shared this mini story about his lecturer trying to categorically differentiate between a man and a woman. According to him, a man, carries things which are only useful (mostly, just money); the no-nonsense stuff, so whenever he needs to find something, in a matter of seconds he’ll find it. But, when it comes to women; situation is totally different. They have to search through their entire wardrobe (well that's the word that he actually used for my bag, Gosh!) and only after looking into each and every pocket twice, they manage to find the needful. Phew! No way! It’s not always the case, is it? No! *pouts*

What’s so laughable about the insides of a woman’s handbag? Why do you think the connection of a women with her handbag is weird and funny? Do you think each and every item in there is useful or does not have a worthy cause? A cherished memory? A purpose? Well, I personally believe that all the items in there are highly significant. Let’s take a look at the contents as we spill out Miss X’s purse onto the examination table. Her name has been kept under wraps to protect her from the unnecessary harassment.

Here we go, 3 - 2 - 1. -

1.  A BEAUTY BAG

So the thing that almost all the ladies have in their bags, is a tiny little make up kit. It actually varies from woman to woman depending on how much makeup they wear in their everyday life and how prone they are to makeup brands. So based on this, the makeup kit can be a little coin clutch filled with a lip gloss or two or it can be another small bag filled with everything from a lip gloss to primers and foundations.
2. LADIES PERSONAL EFFECTS
The next item on this list will be the ladies personal effects. Every known woman on the planet is sure to carry their personal belongings with them for the simple reason that it is unknown when they might be needed or some friend might end up needing one. These again can be carried around randomly and some women who like being organized might carry them around in a little purse of their own which I personally think is very cute!
3. A CHIC WALLET

This item, in which men apparently carry all their stuff, is also one of the ingredients of the mysterious bag of a woman! Every girl or woman would surely be carrying a wallet of sorts. Now there are some who are so brand conscious that their wallet would be nothing short of a Prada, or Chanel, or Coach. Then there are others for whom anything would do and so they carry around stuff in a pencil-case! I cannot say for sure but I think carrying a proper wallet is much more appropriate!
4. A PAIR OF SUNGLASSES

Kind of like the others, sunglasses is another must have ingredient. Every female would be found carrying one at least and again, branded or not is totally dependent on the chic in question. If you do not believe me you can ask your lady-love if you can have looks in her bag and find out for yourself! Although beware before you ask this question because it depends entirely on how close you are with her. Women are very possessive about their bags as it is, and peeping into one is considered very rude.
5. GUMS AND CANDIES

You will hardly find a girl who is not carrying some sort of candy or bubble gum in her purse. I have known girls to carry two same brands of gum in their bag, both of them unfinished and both of them open. There is something about girls and candy and chocolate that men just cannot seem to figure out. Perhaps having so much candy is why they are so sweet.
6. HANKIES

No girl in my circle of acquaintances can be found without hankies. There are women who like carrying around small containers of tissue papers along with them because of health issues. Then there are women who carry around wet tissues for that moment of freshness whenever and where ever it is needed. Some carry around tissue papers because public restrooms are normally out of them, also, in case you sneeze and you do not have a tissue on you, it would seem very anti-feminine. This little fact that girls have tissues on them, is so known now that a man is surely bound to assume that a woman has tissues in her purse, if not, they are just amazed if nothing else!
7. LOTIONS AND SANITIZERS

I would personally find it hard to believe that a woman does not have a lotion or a sanitizer in her bag. Lotions because whenever hands are washed, they tend to dry up and that is just hateful and uncomfortable. Also, the skin tends to dry up sometimes for which a lotion comes in very handy. As far as the sanitizers go, well assume that you are riding on a bus and accidentally put your hand on someone else’s boogies, EEW! How would life be without sanitizers! A night mare for sure! I for one would not want to have my hand smelling of something disgusting and finding out that there is absolutely nothing I can do about it till I find a washroom!
8. PERFUME

Ever wondered how women smell so nice all the time! Well that is because, even if there is nothing else in the purse of theirs, there is bound to be a deodorant, an antiperspirant, a body spray, a body mist, or a perfume! One of these items is surely lying around there somewhere. It might seem that women are pretty high maintenance, but to be honest, they just like being neat, clean, and presentable at all times. After all, they are expected to be aren’t they?
9. A COOL PHONE

Another very cool accessory is the phone! The I-phones are the latest trend and if not that, it certainly would be an android phone. The phone category basically covers all the electronic gadgets that can be found in a woman’s purse and please feel free to include an iPod or a similar music thingy, headphones for sure, and perhaps an iPad too! What will a girl do if she did not tag her whole life around with her.
10. KEYS AND A NOTEBOOK/PLANNER

So guys have a single key to their car with which they hang their room key and that is nearly it. For women, it is a whole other story. They have these blingy key chains in their bags, most probably with something furry and pink, and also a notebook or a planner. Apparently, women would be lost without these items. I think all of these add up to make women the women we know them to be. Cute little human beings with little things that cause them to be happy!

Oh! And this is not all. Some other things found are -

11. A dozen bandages- Okay, sometimes I get frustrated trying to find a bandage, so I buy a new one. Who knows I could get hit on something hard and be poor. I’ll surely be glad I have a year supply of bandages then, won’t I ? Just kidding! But you agree they are essential, right?

12. Unfinished chocolate bar- What? Nothing’s wrong with it. You know, if your bus’s late and your probably starving, you might just wish you had something to eat.

13. 7 pens,3 pencils and a glitter pen (Stationary) - I have a phobia, I can’t help it. I must carry multiple writing instruments. You never know, what you may just need to complete a project.

14. Photos -  Yes, you heard it alright! Photo of me and my close friends. Well, I may just need to remember them. And sometimes, photos on your phone may not be sufficient! Aww.. I know am super sweet! *wink*

15. Umbrella - you live in Delhi, too. Don’t you? You know the heat! Umbrella is a constant companion for a woman be it summers or monsoons. Imagine, what would have happened to woman’s race without it?

Miscellaneous-  Water bottle, daily planner, office papers, college notes, money (if any space is left) etc. depending upon the weather for instance, summers- cotton gloves, winters- woollen gloves etc. What?! It’s important at times.

I have my sympathies with Miss X and her handbag. I personally, don’t find anything that should be discarded or left out. I mean, just take a look at everything listed above has so much usage in one’s life.

As for men, they have always been and will always be clueless about the complexity of a woman’s life. A woman is a miracle of divine contradictions. It’s easier to clean a woman’s mind than her handbag, because mind changes but no matter what she likes to keep her handbag same as always.


As the saying goes, "To generalise on women is dangerous. To specialise on them is even worse". So, be careful,friends!

LOL

*Cheers!*
Stay blessed!
Love & Laughter,
Ila
xoxo




Tuesday, October 2, 2012

A Friendship Reminder!

The best kind of friends are the ones that you share good times with. A friend who can make you laugh is worth a handful who can't. So often we walk around with the weight of the world on our shoulders. Our bodies become tense and this is a cause for most illnesses. Having humor in your life is not just a matter of a good time, it's also a matter of living longer. Often when you have a friendship that has lasted a long time you continue to share memories of humorous interactions that you shared. This may be the glue that holds the friendship together.

You and I are friends
You laugh, I laugh
You cry, I cry

You scream, I scream
You run, I run
You jump, I jump

You jump off a
bridge, I'm going to
miss you buddy:)
Sorry that was just to make you laugh. I wouldn't apply it. Instead I would never let you jump; never let you fall. :D
I could skip a heartbeat, and I would survive,
I could be in a car crash, and still be alive.
The clouds could fall out of the sky,
The oceans could disappear, and all turn dry.

These things in life are all bad I know,
but there's far worse things,
just thought you should know.

Life would not be the same without someone like you,
You're there when I need you to help me through.
Through the good times and through the bad,
Be them happy, or be them sad.

I don't have to be with you, to know you're there,
We don't have to see each other, to know that we care.
We could be apart for years upon end,
and still remain the best of friends.

Life goes on, and people change,
And through it all, our friendship shall remain the same.
That's such as a life, and how things come to be.
Just thought you should know,
HOW MUCH YOU MEAN TO ME.

Friday, September 28, 2012

A poem from 'I live for you' :)



‘I worked on my laptop..
 Wrote a little...
 Browsed the net…Didn’t feel good!
 I switched on the TV..
 Saw some news..
 Saw creepy Serials..Didn’t feel good.
 I explored my cell..
 Played angry birds..
 Listened music…Didn’t feel good.
 I found later..
 Without talking to you..
 I could not smile…Nor feel Good! Missing You.. ♥ '

Thursday, September 27, 2012

A Letter to God!

Dear God,

I want to thank you for bestowing the mankind with an awe-inspiring gift of nature. Its breath taking beauty provides a great and much needed escape from the complexities of life. It keeps me calm and provides solace. The landscape is stunning and tranquil at the same time. Nature has everything that can sustain mankind like herbs which cure our diseases, fruits and vegetables that we eat, fresh air we breathe, rivers and seas provide us water which we use for various purposes, etc. The rivers and meadows are a feast to the eyes. Then we have animals to rear. Sheep gives us wool, cows provide milk, etc. Also, the woods from the trees help us build our houses for shelter. Water helps us in generating hydro-electricity. Trees give us shade and also prevent soil erosion. Mountains add to the scenic beauty and people enjoy trekking on the mountains these days. Thus, I am very thankful to You for giving us the bounties of nature that has made our life so wonderful and full of delights.

But do we really deserve such pleasures? Are we really worth it? It's very easy for people these days to say that 'Yes, I love nature. It's peaceful and has a heavenly aura.' But it’s very difficult to prove it. The same people, who say that we are the 'animal lovers', do not hesitate to eat them up at the first opportunity they get. The nature's on the verge of extinct these days and so are we. It's a sorry state that's prevailing everywhere. The future is in dark and dinghy. Hoping that the mankind will be able to see some light soon and follow it instead of going towards dark. I pray to You to save us from the dire consequences because I love this life given to me by You and I want to live some more.

Love You Loads,
Your Bubbliest Daughter,
Ila :)

Wednesday, September 26, 2012

The reason for my absence! :(


I really want to know what do people mean by 'True Love'? Is it killing yourself for someone? Getting mad over your 'lost love'? Crying endlessly? Running away from all the others in your life? Or just living and trying to be better and successful each day to make your 'ungrateful love' regret someday?
Well, I believed and still do, that killing or hurting yourself is no option. You can't force someone to love you. That's just not fair. Love is a natural phenomenon. You cannot make it happen overnight; it just happens out of the blue and takes time. We often tend to confuse 'infatuation' with 'love'.
It so happened with me. I was all happy and busy with my usual life; totally unaware of the coming shock! Never even in my dreams I had thought that somebody can and will do something so serious for me. I was broken, shattered, desolated! I can not see someone hurt because of me; it pains me from within. It's like a slow poison.
It was a usual day. I was merrily chatting with friends over Whatsapp and uploading some pictures on Facebook alongside. It was already 1:00A.M.; but I wasn't sleepy. Insomnia had hit me lately and I wasn't complaining. I was excited because I knew that the following day was going to be amazing; I was meeting a friend after very long! Suddenly a message popped up on my mobile. The screen was flashing more than usually as the room was dark. I had switched off the lights. It was a message from a nice friend of mine. I opened it. It wasn't usual. No, not because of the timing but because of the content. It was a proposal. I wasn't expecting it; at least not from him. I sent a usual situational reply - 'I never thought of you as anything beyond a friend.' He could not digest the reply. He started flooding my phone with his messages; most of them were filled with sadness while others were full of rage. I was irritated after a while. There was no one to share that moment of anxiety with me. I was blank; finding it difficult to breath. I was even close to tears when we sent me two pictures of his 'cut hand' on which he had written in blood - 'I LOVE YOU ILA'.
Seeing my name in blood gave me a puking sensation. And then I could not control myself. I broke down and I cried. I wished to cancel the plan for the following day and wanted to stay home. I was unable to move. I thought of typing a message to my friend, telling him how sorry I was that I would not be able to meet him. I was halfway through the message when I realised that am giving an insignificant issue much importance. I revised the priorities of my life in my head and switched off the phone. I twisted and turned in my bed for the whole night, trying to remove the picture of my bloodshot name from my eyes. All was in vain!
I got ready the next day to meet my friend. I tried my best to smile as much as I could. Thank God the fakeness of my smile wasn't very visible. I narrated him all the episode and showed him all the messages and the pictures. He was amazed too. I wasn't fully in my senses that day; though I tried hard. I had dreamt of that meeting for a while but it wasn't executed well. I was smiling on the outside, but only I knew how much my heart was crying.
Only thing going on in my numbed mind was that how could I say 'yes' to him when I never meant it? It would have worsen the things. I only hoped and prayed for him to understand me and my situation some day and not hurt himself pointlessly. Since then, he messages daily, literally begging me for a 'yes' but I know I cannot say it without meaning it. Howsoever hard I try, I cannot love him too because I never felt that way! I stopped talking to everyone after that; took calls only when indispensable.
But last night, the same friend who met me and heard me pouring my heart out, told me to move beyond it. My friend made me realise that it wasn't my mistake; according to him I had tried my level best to make him understand but he refused to comprehend anything. And I am so grateful to my this sweet friend, who noticed my absence from the blog and told me to start writing again which I had temporarily left. And therefore this blog post is solely dedicated to him; because he has always been the ultimate support system for me.

P.S. My message to all the readers - 'Don't impose your love on anyone. If you love a person truly, tell them and then give them time to think and space to breath. They will come to you someday if you two are meant to be together. If not, then you will surely find someone else; may be better than them. But please, never hurt yourself or others in pursuit of love. Love is a beautiful feeling, don't spoil it's meaning. Live and let live. Love and let go.'

*CHEERS*
Love & Laughter,
Ila :)
xoxo

Wednesday, August 22, 2012

Dreams

I tried to live all my dreams,
but, it was harder than it seems,
Now they sleep inside my eyes,
More like a long lost paradise.

Dreams get alive again every night,
and appear to be perfectly alright,
Sometimes its very hard to believe,
whether its real or something I perceive.

What's worth every second inside,
is that my heart has nothing to hide,
The only place where there is no secret,
and where my heart has no regret.

For every lie that you ever told,
My heart turned into an ocean so cold,
What else could my heart ever seek,
A dream where, its never so weak.

Tears shed through my eyes like rain,
made me strong to never love again,
I sometimes wonder what hurts more,
Lonely life or I have nothing to fight for.

I never had any clue since the start,
that someday you’ll rip my heart apart,
we were never meant to be together, but,
In my dreams we are together forever.

If dreams are meant for when I am asleep,
Don’t wake me up from heaven so deep,
No matter what I lose on this way,
because from here you never walk away.

What my open eyes could never see,
was shown by beautiful dreams to me,
I got to spend a life in love with you,
No matter if dreams never come true..!

Sunday, August 12, 2012

Thank you note!!



They say that an Author is nothing without his/her readers. I personally believe in the saying. So here I am thanking all my blog readers for their appreciations. Thank you so much Tavleen Kaur, Basil, Princy Kurian, Jayashree Tripura, Anadi Sir, Ashish Dadgaa, Komal Panwar, and all the others I have missed out for your appreciations and encouragements over the time.

No writer can write in vacuum. So the writings are always influenced by the surroundings. My writings are no exceptions. I write what I experience, what I see around me, what I feel from the bottom of my heart, sometimes I write what my friends face, etc. And because they are real, people connect to them much easily. People all around me suffer from heartbreaks and other such common feelings like being left out in the crowd. So,  I write about such incidents, it is to make them see a possible solution and work towards it. I believe that together we can make sadness temporary and happiness will be a permanent state then!

When you guys tell me that you found my blog interesting, it gives me a boost to keep writing. Every work of art needs to be commented upon. Critics/ or bad comments helps in improvising while praises help in strengthening one's belief in oneself. So keep them coming. Your reviews, feedback, even a line is essential for me to keep writing more and more.


P.S. - Life seems interesting to write about when you all are there to read about it. ;) And yeah feel free to share your personal experiences like you always do, so that I may include them. Obviously names will be changed if you don't want to be mentioned. :P

Here I am signing off for now,
Love & Laughter,
Ila :)

Monday, August 6, 2012

Just another day..

Finally I am  on the right track. I feel alive. Though everything is new and awkward still I am learning each day. I am maturing as a person. My mum is rather a delicate soul when it comes to me. She somehow cannot see me upset. It pains her deeply to know that I am not feeling good in my new life. Just for her sake, I have finally decided to try and adjust in the new situation; though it seems to be the most difficult task right now.
Problem is I feel isolated in the new college. I feel so like 'odd one out' amongst all the new classmates. Did it ever happen with you too? I feel an eerie sense of remoteness as I enter the college premises. I was disappointed initially and now I have lost all hope. So when today I actually made two three friends, I felt hopeful again. Everything passes and so now I am sure this one year will pass too. It was just a phase; a different place, a different time, and different people having different mindsets. It will take time for me to adjust there but eventually I will be a part of it.
For now, I am happy about the positive start; although it's an awkward beginning. Fingers crossed!!


Jab jab dard ka baadal chhaya
Jab gham ka saya lehraya
Jab aansoo palkon tak aya
Jab yeh tanha dil ghabraya
Humne dil ko ye samjhaya
Dil aakhir tu kyun rota hai
Duniya mein yunhi hota hai
Yeh jo gehre sannaate hain
Waqt ne sabko hi baante hain
Thoda gham hai sabka kissa
Thodi dhoop hai sabka hissa
Aankh teri bekaar hi nam hai
Har pal ek naya mausam hai
Kyun tu aise pal khota hai
Dil aakhir tu kyun rota hai..



Sunday, August 5, 2012

The JIP Gang as we call it :)

Mood-spoilers are in love with me, it seems!! They are always around. But this day - Friendship's Day, had to be special. Jayashree and Princy already planned to meet me and ordered me to decide the time and be there at any cost. It was Sunday but I had so many engagements but somehow I could not say 'No' for obvious reasons.

1) It was almost two weeks and we had not met.
2) It was the day for celebrating.
3) I was in a bad mood.
4) I was experiencing awkward things at the new college.
5) I knew I need to relax but was not finding ample time for it.

So I rescheduled everything and we met this evening. Wow!! I feel so refreshed and so 'Me' again. We laughed all the time and so much that everyone was staring at us. We clicked pictures, although interestingly they both are camera conscious. So I have got strict instructions not to post their pictures. I still remember the exact words in which we talked; all the jokes we shared; the anticipations we discussed about; and everything else. Another day has become a memory but I still can giggle about it. The best part is we have decided to meet often now because no other friend can replace the comfort and sweetness of JIP gang!!!
We share something magical. That's why together we are angels! Love you loads :) muuah!!!


P.S. - Here are two pictures from the unforgettable evening that I can safely post! ;)



Saturday, August 4, 2012

William Shakespeare on Friendship!

Here's a poem by William Shakespeare dedicated to some special friends, especialls my BFFs. Love you all.

'When to the session of sweet silent thought
I summon up remembrance of things past,
I sigh the lack of many a thing I sought,
And with old woes new wail my dear time's waste:
Then can I drown an eye, unused to flow,
For precious friends hid in death's dateless night,
And weep afresh love's long since cancelled woe,
And moan the expense of many a vanished sight:
Then can I grieve at grievances foregone,
And heavily from woe to woe tell o'er
The sad account of fore-bemoaned moan,
Which I new pay as if not paid before.
But if the while I think on thee, dear friend,
All losses are restored and sorrows end.'

To - Aditya, Princy, Jayashree, Isha, Komal, Vaibhav, Rohit, Jatin, Anadi sir, Saurabh sir, Pawan sir, Santnu sir, and everyone else who has ever been a reason for my smile!!

Wednesday, August 1, 2012

My funny side! Yes, it exists! :D

Haha! People around me think am forever in pain. That's the only thing I can feel. Guys you are highly mistaken. I love to laugh. They so want me to be happy and this post is to declare that yes I am happy to have you with me. So, here I am sharing some stuff that makes me laugh out and I almost roll over at times ending with a stomache. Well, my imaginary world rocks! Enjoy!

READ AT YOUR OWN RISK … REALLY GROSS STUFF COMING UP !! :P

You are at your place, watching your favorite TV show and enjoying the support of the comfortable cushion on your extremely cozy couch, with TV remote in one hand, while the other hand is busy texting on your cell phone.
All of a sudden, you feel kind of itchy in your ear, so you put down the remote and dig into your ear with the little finger a.k.a pinky and hunt for the priceless fortune that the ear holds in itself. After satisfying yourself with a pleasant gratifying massage for few seconds, you feel some nasty, gross fluidly stuff on your finger. Congratulations! You have just found the hidden treasure that had been lost in your ear for quite some time.
Now comes the moment of truth. You can’t help but to watch the riches that just came out of your ear. You can’t stop wandering about its color and texture. Instincts tell you not to do it but your inquisitive persona compels you to give it a shot. You ponder for a moment but, come on; you are at your home. Who’s watching? So you feast your eyes on one of the nature’s most divine creations: ear wax.
Thus comes the crucial time of verdict. Either you can make the long exhausting commute to the wash room, due to which you may miss the most exciting part of your favorite TV show, or you can simply rub it off against the back of your couch. The decision is totally up to you mate!





Monday, July 30, 2012

That's what makes me click!

Come with me, I will take you down the photo lane today! If you are shocked, please read the about me column on the blog! Yes, I love to click pictures. So are you ready?


1) Here comes the first one. This has been clicked while was walking aimlessly through a park!



2) This one is a glimpse of Goa. To go through the complete trip's experience, read here : http://ilashininggem.blogspot.in/2012/01/enchanting-trip-to-goa-i-was-working-to.html


3) Now this one is from my garden!


4) This one is from my garden too!


                                                 5) This is my personal favourite.


This is it for now. Keep watching this space for more such clicks. xoxo

If you wish any day can be happy!

Today, I learnt that your day may not have a good start but if you want, you can always give it a happy ending.
It was the worst day till destiny showed me some ray of hope. I was not well; had fever. My BFF was busy with his classes and I chose not to disturb him this time. Being single is terrible at times. You feel so secluded. Sometimes you just feel the need for a certain someone to be there at a distant and show you that he cares and will be there for you no matter what. Though he might be away from you, but in your heart he is always near. I hope you are getting my point although I guess I am talking senseless right now.
In my previous blog post, I said that having a boy best friend in better than a boyfriend. But having a boyfriend has it's own positives. Everyone needs a person they can completely rely on and know that come what may they will love you. Although my best friend does the same. Still I feel hollow at times like this when he is busy. A boyfriend is someone who can make you feel wanted even when he is busy. May be because the way you connect with him is different. Post-breakup often girls like me turn all scared at the thought of getting committed again. But now my BFF thinks that it's time for me to let go my fears and be myself again. He actually helped me in finding 'the real me' all over again which I had lost somewhere in a place unknown. He taught me to live again literally.
So today when he was busy and I was feeling all-time low, I knew that I was again back there from where I had started. I went into nostalgia thinking hard that how my life sucked.

Listening to this song of Taylor Swift actually made me miss 'him' more, though I had promised Adi (my Best Friend Forever) that I wouldn't cry over him anymore. But I was feeling so weak.



I almost forgot that my life wasn't that bad. I still had people who wanted to see me smile like Rohit, Sahil, Rahul, Jatin, etc. Sensing me upset, Rahul called and it made me feel like I wasn't alone after all. Thinking of Jatin, I suddenly forgot I was upset a little while ago. I respect him a lot; and often call him 'my superstar' and so he was. Talking to him was the next best thing to talking to Adi. And then the conversation became just too special. It was like a new day, a new beginning. I have no clue what the future will be like but one thing I am sure I am loving it; loving the feel of it. And who knows I might bump into my Mr.Right soon enough? Or may be I have already found him, just an acknowledgement is needed?
For now one thing is certain in my uncertain world. All my bad days can have happy endings, I just need to have right people in my life and flush out the wrong people. Then the life will be a happy journey, full of hunky-dory surprises.
So word of the day - LET GO! Believe me it's a lot more easier to let go rather than holding on to something that is never going to come to you again. Although it might seem the toughest thing in the world to do. Have you ever felt clinging to something that is about to break and fall? Well holding on to someone who doesn't care about you is similar. So I have decided to live again instead of falling in an unknown horizon. What are you waiting for? Life never stops, so why should we?

In a nut shell, a bad day is like walking with an umbrella in the rain, while a good day is like throwing that umbrella far off and letting it rain all over you! So finally I am throwing that umbrella shielding my happiness off, and getting drenched. What about you? ;)

Sunday, July 29, 2012

My idea of perfect bliss!

 So I was sitting by the window and it was wide open, my bright eyes were glancing at the rain-drops, as they fall from the cloudy sky to meet the thirsty earth. My ears seemed to enjoy the pitter-patter. It was a kind of relief to the soul.
It feels utmost bliss to see the wind playing games with the soft twigs of the young green plants. Cold winds blowing through the leaves of the trees. The earth seems happy and wishing that the monsoons stay for a little more time.
The idea of perfect bliss may still vary from person to person. For me Monsoon season is the most delightful one. I just feel all delighted to sit by a window side with a novel in my hand or with my lappy. So, the equation for bliss is very simple for me :

Rain + A novel / Lappy + A cup of coffee = Bliss!


But post-breakup nothing can make you cheerful for a while; not even the equation written above. What then? Ever wondered how easily people say, 'C'mon he/she wasn't worth you. Forget it and move on.' But reality is that if the attachment with someone is way too much then it takes time to imagine your life without them. People meet and depart, but life? Well, 'It goes on!'
The rain which made you glad earlier, can actually make you cry. You may gaze at the outdoors and hear the rain falling but the effect would be completely opposite. It no longer apes happiness but leaves you sad and nostalgic.
Love is like an earthquake-unpredictable, a little scary, but when the hard part is over you realize how lucky you truly are. Something like this happened with me too. I too fell and wasn't caught. But still today sitting at the window side with the smell of wet mud making me feel sensuous, I am happy. I know some of you may be thinking I must not be in deep or true love. That's not right, though. I loved him with all I had. Some relations are just not meant to be. I had to let him go. I was blissful this time, relieved of all the pain. The heart was forgiving 'him' gradually for hurting me and forgetting 'his' mistakes. He had wounded me badly but time heals all.
I just had to change the equation a bit to regain the control on my life. How could I allow him to hurt me forever even when he was gone, never to come back again? The equation now read as follows :


 Phone / Internet + BFF = Bliss!


Now I don't have to wait for Rain to come and make me delighted anymore. I have someone; someone very special, My BFF to make me smile when all I want is to cry. With him around, I don't feel the need for anything else in the world. It's like he is 'Happiness Personified' for me. Life seems hunky-dory when he is with me. I don't have any awkward moments with him. It's comforatble to share everything with him; from the deepest desires to the deepest, darkest secrets. Only the thought of him is enough to bring a smile on my face. There's an advantage of having a boy best friend rather than a boyfriend, afterall. A boy best friend serves the same purpose. The only difference parhaps is he wouldn't ever break your heart and will be willing to go to any extent to ensure your happiness. He encourages you to be better and he never gives fake compliment. He can rudely criticise you and take my word for it that it's helpful in the long run.
Today it seems both the equations have united to take me beyond the cloud 9. So it's raining outside, I am gazing at the sky, the wind from the open window is playing with my hair now, I am typing on my lappy with a cup of coffee placed nearby, my phone's beeping, it's a message from my BFF. Wait, I need to reply.

And me,
Well, I'm alive. :)

Saturday, July 28, 2012

Because I was blank!!

Had a troubled sleep. Woke up as early as 7:00 A.M. today with a severe headache. If anything I am feeling weird right now. Life can be so meaningless at times. Crap!
I wonder how can in such a busy and short life, people find time to be sad and do all the drama! It's just too lame. The problem with me is I cannot see a single soul around me unhappy. I almost kill myself (metaphorically) to ensure their happiness. Duh! I am surrounded by so many people who are habituated to cribbing over anything and everything. Yeah right, I live with a lot of negativity around me - one of the reasons for my rare mood swings!
I logged in to FACEBOOK thinking I would have some fun catching up with friends over chat. A friend of mine (yeah you guessed right, from the 'cribbing team') started crying literally over the chat about how his girlfriend broke up with him and went out of station without meeting him for the last time. I am awestruck by the fact that he knew this girl was cheating on him for the past two years and he still loved him. Huh! Love is a lame concept these days. True love always hurts if it exists in the first place. Weird!!! (Word of the day - WEIRD! Ta-Da!)
I was like What? Are you that insane? Or that blind? It was a SUCKER ALERT for sure. My head was already banging. But somehow I can never leave people alone especially when they are so low. Gawd! I never understand how can people cry over a person? If your girl is gone, then let that bitch go and get over it dude! You deserve to live your life and not kill yourself in her absence!
So though I wasn't very well, I chose to stay online and hear him if nothing else. Finally he calmed down and I went offline. As if it wasn't enough to ruin my mood, another friend called. Haha! My life is full of them. Or is it that am too kind? Whatever!
Now this friend was all drunk and I was so tired. He kept speaking and I chose to remain quiet. He was telling me his break-up story for the 100th time! Darn it! Finally around 3:00 A.M., I told him to sleep and let me sleep. I wonder if I am extra sweet to my friends! But then I find it a compulsion to make everyone feel better, it gives me a unique satisfaction. I really wish someone to do the same to me someday when I am going through such a weird phase of life! Told you, WEIRD is the right word.
I woke up this morning, totally blank. Had a movie plan but cancelled it. It's one of my bad days!! Feeling like post-hangover!! Sigh! So since morning am roaming all over the home and then finally decided to switch on to my lappy and write something for the NGO website am working on. Hah! Even that wasn't a success! Spammed by messages from a friend yet again! I choose not to reply this time and writing this blog instead. Though it's a senseless piece. My life sucks or may be my some of the friends. Though not all of them. I am missing some of my real good friends now. Why is everyone so busy today? Need to calm down myself now. Any tips? Anyone?


Friday, July 27, 2012

My playlist update!!

Some of the addictive songs ruling my playlist for a while :


1. A beautifully crazy song.




2.  Irrestible song.



3.  One Direction is the Band that I am hooked to.



4. Cocktail's song surely rocked. Would love to groove on this number.



5. Punjabi beats can upbeat the mood anytime.



6. Adele is forever interesting!



7. Honestly I love everything about Taylor Swift's songs and they are so full of emotions, and the way she brings them up is amazing.





8. Lately Lucy hale is more than just Aria of Pretty Little Liars.






9. There's something intriguing about this one.





10. Last one for now. The lyrics are amazing!





Enjoy the weekend!! :) Flow with the music..Give in to your senses..Sit back and relax! Stay blessed! xoxoxoxo :)



The hottest love has the coldest end! : Robert pattinson, Kristen Stewart, & Rupert Sanders.

Okay, so what started as a sensational love story has now ended as a tragedy! Kristen Stewart and Robert Pattinson were together for almost four years and were one of the hottest couple in the Hollywood before Kristen chose to cheat on him and that too with a married man and her SWATH director Rupert Sanders.
Robert, 26, is sure to have been further devastated after hearing that Kristen, 22 and 41-year-old married father of two, Rupert, couldn't keep their hands off each other in Los Angeles last week. It's a shameful incident and Rob is now left devastated, heartbroken, angry, embarrassed, and secluded.
The couple first met at the sets of Twilight in 2008 and have been together since then. Kristen however was dating Michael Angarano at the time. She broke up with Angarano in 2009 when rumours of Kristen dating Robert swirled all around.
Robert Pattinson and Kristen Stewart were always side by side during fan events and press calls while promoting New Moon, though they remained quiet on their dating status initially. By the end of 2009, they confirmed their relationship. They looked good together; complementing each other. Fans were happy for them.
Robert Pattinson talked about Kristen Stewart in the April issue of Vanity Fair, saying: "Kristen is very focused on being an actress. I mean, that's what she is—she's an actress. She's cool. Even before I knew her I thought she was a really good actress. Like, I saw Into the Wild, and I thought she was really good in that. I still think there are very few girls in her class that are as good as she is."
Also, Robert has been openly saying that no one can understand him the way Kristen understands him. He always seemed happy and content to have her by his side. He has quoted in the magazines several times that he finds cheating in a relationship unthinkable and that he can never think of cheating. Also, he respects women.
Robert Pattinson and Kristen Stewart held hands during a date night in LA just two days after she was photographed kissing Rupert Sanders. Robert Pattinson and Kristen Stewart shared the stage at the Teen Choice Awards in LA. It was after the show that Kristen reportedly told Rob about her affair with Rupert Sanders.

Now she is apologising to Robert thinking everything will be sorted out between them. She issued her statement recently, "I'm deeply sorry for the hurt and embarrassment I've caused to those close to me and everyone this has affected. This momentary indiscretion has jeopardised the most important thing in my life, the person I love and respect the most, Rob. I love him, I love him, I'm so sorry."

Kristen has ruined her life and career by hurting Rob. By cheating on him and not understanding Rob's true love for her, she has only turned the situation worse. All her fans are now angry with her. She is doomed as of now.
A die hard fan of Robert Pattinson, Aashna Bisht says, 'Rob is 'crushed' so say his friends, catching her cheating on him was the LAST thing he expected from her. He is not even coming out in public. Kristen did not say that she expects him to take her back but she is kinda positive. Cheating with a MARRIED MAN WITH TWO KIDS YUCK. Gross moral turpitude. She had the world at her feet- most popular, media's favourite, highest paid actress, most loving, grounded and successful guy by her side and a string of blockbuster until she threw it away for a fling with a married man.'
Fans like Sneha Jha are shocked as they took Kristen to be a nice girl. Vaishnavi Srimag says, 'It's laughable she cheated on Rob. One thing's for sure: its gonna be an interesting Twilight  Breaking Dawn premiere. So much tension!!! =)) LOL. '
Aashna further adds, 'She was seduced by Rupert, however she willingly carried on the 'show' and after doing 'it' in the CAR she dropped him to his house.'
Reports say that it was fleeting moment. Fans say that she is barely 22 and mistakes happen but tell me this - throughout the fling she was aware people would see her do that so she avoided being photographed and not for once thought about Robert? The guy who loves her so much?
Kristen Stewart thought about getting caught by Paparazzi but not about Robert Pattinson ??? Shameless!!


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Thursday, July 26, 2012

The Guwahati incident : Who is to be blamed?


According to a guy, it is the mistake of the girl because her dressing was improper. In case you don't get it, I am talking about the Guwahati Molestation case! I don't understand where such out of the world thoughts come from. She might go to a bar, get drunk, hungover or dress up however she wants to. It is her life! Problem is in the men's brain not in the dressing! If you don't have control over your hormones, shut your bloody eyes and mouth!
Please stop teaching girls how to dress up and start teaching guys not to rape them!! Weird people!!
These sexually frustrated guys see the girls as an object of lust. These boys think girls are their property. Male chauvinist pigs! They say India is a free country. Then also girls can't live freely here. In fact, it is here in India that we hear about so many cases of rape and women don't get respect, so how can India be a free country? That's just a lame opinion.
A teen-aged girl was molested, groped at and beaten up, all in full public view, by a mob in Guwahati, and what is the government doing? The 17-year-old girl was subjected to molestation and assault for nearly half an hour before being rescued by some passers-by. Just because the protesters started voicing their opinions, the police force is working overtime to hunt down those involved in the crime. So far, only four of them have been arrested while eight others are still out there somewhere.
One of my friends, Peeyush Kaushik who lives in Guwahati claims that it is not a safe city for anyone at night. He says that even men are not safe there at night. I wonder when will our government look into the safety affairs of Guwahati state. Reality is we have been corrupted at the very ground level. When the roots are corrupted, how can one expect the tree to be safe?
In words of another friend, Sanya Nayar, 'If we sit to rectify men's mentality and challenge it by hosting slut walks and displaying our-will-dress up, we'll keep roaming in this vicious cycle. After all, one also does take precaution against a mad dog on the street.' Further another girl, Vanshika Sharma says that India is not a free country anymore!
Vaishnavi Srimag has got this to say on the whole tragic incidence, 'How a girl dresses is none of your business dude!! I don't think even a single man would like if we tell you how to dress. Girls should have their freedom to at least dress how they want! Problem is not how she dresses. It's how MEN see it!! IDIOTS! Sometimes I feel like screaming things like...you people are sexually frustrated. Go drown yourself in freezing water!!!!'
Sanya Gulati, is outraged by the happening and says, 'The message really needs to spread around but wonder if these thick headed and desperate men would get a word! Guess how they would be sparing their mom and sisters..huh jerks!'
Further, Akriti Bahal, a friend and blogger voices, 'Actually! Men, today, are sick! Now, this seems like- We'll continue being horrendous animals no matter what, because it's our birth right, and put unwarranted blames on the other gender, because we have to say something in our defense. Eh? Whatever? Sick!'
At the end, I have this to say the war of sexes is never ending! No one is black or white; right or wrong! We all are just in shades of grey. The government is acting deaf, and the world is getting more and more unsafe to live. I wonder what's the future has in store for us. We can just hope to survive and walk in the streets fearless someday! May peace prevails!

The Cocktail Movie Review!


Okay so the movie is a must watch for sure. It’s RECOMMENDED especially for those who love to laugh. Cocktail follows the basic Bollywood genre-geometry of a love triangle. The good part about this one, unlike most love triangles, is that the three protagonists get to know who loves who pretty early in the picture and the revelation isn't stretched till the climax. Cocktail, basically, is the same prose with new grammar.
So the story is about a compulsive flirt Gautam (Saif Ali Khan) who gets into a no-strings-attached relationship with the hot-n-happening Veronica (Deepika Padukone). Girl-next-door Meera (Diana Penty) is literally the girl Gautam takes home to his mother (Dimple Kapadia) to cover-up his live-in relationship with Veronica. Until by interval point his heart starts fluttering for Meera. And the rest as they say is 'history'.
The characterizations are basically been-there-seen-that. The guy is commitment-phobic until he meets his match and realizes what 'true love' is. The firang female has a frivolous attitude until she realizes she, too, is vulnerable to feelings. The realisation dawns upon her that she too has a soft corner. The introvert desi dame isn't aware of her own beauty until the boy makes her realize it. Further she goes in the let-go-love-for-friend mode.
The one thing that I personally loved about the movie is its songs and their timings. Anil Mehta's cinematography is picture perfect. Pritam's music is peppy and some new voices add freshness to the soundtrack. From honey singh to coke studio, nothing was left out. The dialogues are another thing I cannot stop appreciating. I loved the originality of dialogues. They were just so perfect and catchy.
The narrative never tries too hard to build the chemistry between the characters. Like Veronica gets a random stranger Meera home and they become the best of buddies. Or Gautam and Veronica just hit if off in two scenes. So do Gautam and Meera subsequently, and if it wasn't for the kiss at interval point, one wouldn't know cupid has cross-connected. Further Meera's sudden truce with her past love (Randeep Hooda) in the pre-climax seems half-baked. Yet, at the expense of conviction, what you don't mind is that the story keeps moving ahead without expending too much time on the obvious and inescapable elements of a love story.
The 2 hours and 27 minutes of the movie is worthwhile. Nowhere does the viewer feel that the story is dragging. One tends to move with the flow.
The pacing drops in the second half, and one gets more impatient with predictability seeping into the plot. Evidently you know which girl would win in the end but you lose out to the protracted proceedings. In fact when the hero extensively proposes the heroine in the last scene you cannot stop yourself from indulging in laughter yet your eyes are filled with tears.
The first half was hilarious while during the second half I was actually laughing with tears in my eyes. The movie is typical in its story but the way of presentation is what makes it unique.

Despite all its conventionalism and inconsistencies, what still keeps you connected to the movie is its attitude to never take itself too seriously. The humour is inherent and scenes like Saif's first encounter with Deepika or Dimple Kapadia's artificial respiration to Deepika are hilarious.
From the cast, Deepika Padukone comes with the most impressive performance and is exceptionally good in the drunken scene where the happy-go-lucky Veronica shows her vulnerable side. And while she remains absolutely natural in her act, she looks stunningly sexy too. Saif Ali Khan is in his comfort zone in this romantic comedy and effortlessly charms girls (both on and off screen). Diana Penty comes with the requisite rawness that her character demands and is quite decent in her debut act. The minimalism in her looks often reminds of Giselle Monteiro's character from Love Aaj Kal. Dimple Kapadia comes as a pleasant change to the Punjabi-mom prototype in Bollywood and is quite likeable. Boman Irani does well in his short role. The talented Randeep Hooda gets no scope in his three-scene two-bit role.
Seriously, some good friends are too good to be shared!
To sum up, this one is old Cocktail in new bottle!

Tuesday, March 13, 2012

NO, LOVE IS NOT IN THE AIR… IT’S EVERYWHERE!

NO, LOVE IS NOT IN THE AIR… IT’S EVERYWHERE! J


Okay, I admit it…I am a hopeless romantic, like Shifani also tells me many times. I can’t help it. It’s just the way I have always been. I love the idea of falling in love and all the romance that goes with it. I adore the feeling of being that ‘special’ person to someone and thoroughly enjoy the experience of being wooed. But I’m a difficult romantic to please, because I’m not one for clichés. I like my man to be original – to put thought and effort into everything he does to please me!! Don’t get me wrong…I’m not a hardcore feminist either. I just think I’m worth the effort, if you know what I mean.
Now, you might think that Valentine’s Day is perfectly suited for a romantic like me. Well, you’re right, but only in some ways. Honestly, I think Valentine’s Day is a tad overrated. But the one thing I really like about it is that it acts as a reminder not to take someone for granted and to let them know they are loved.
Also, for me, Valentine’s Day actually goes beyond ‘the man’ and involves everyone who is special to me. It’s a day when I also like to do something special for my brother, my parents, my grandparents, my friends…the people I love the most in this world.
Now, some of you might say that you don’t need to have one specific day to let people know how special they are to you. I won’t argue but I will urge you to look beyond the commercialization of the day itself and consider the emotions that it triggers and rekindles.
I strongly believe that you have to let people know what they mean to you on a regular basis which is why I believe that Valentine’s Day is like the icing on an already - baked cake! It’s the something extra that you do to make the ones you love feel special. I speak for myself when I say that irrespective of how many times my friends or family tell me that they love me, I get all warm & fuzzy when they do something for me on V-Day! And I’m sure they feel the same as well.
I loved it when my fried, Mamta gave me a rose on the Rose Day; when I got so many hilarious proposals on the Propose Day; when Pooja, Princy & many others gave me chocolate on the Chocolate Day; when I got cute teddies on the Teddy Day; when my closed ones promised to keep me happy on the Promise Day; when I got so many Jaduu ki Jhappis on the Hug Day (it was my mom’s birthday too, which made it extra special; also, Esha di came back from London ensuring that the day turns out to be fab!)
In our heart of hearts, I think we’re all romantic – in varying degrees, of course! The only advice I can offer is to enjoy the moment, enjoy the thought & the effort that someone special is putting into a day like this, enjoy the emotions and, most of all, appreciate that you have the privilege to love someone and be loved in return. Not everyone does!
Forget Valentine’s Day for a minute…we live in an unpredictable world and what will happen three minutes from now is anybody’s guess. All I can say is never miss any opportunity to express your love and get some in return. There is NOTHING more precious, more priceless, more rewarding and more fun than love…in all its forms!
So, keep loving…let yourself go…life is too short for holding on to grudges & regret…forget, forgive, and move on…Here’s signing off…
Love,
Ila Garg J
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