Thursday, June 16, 2011

Sweety's Diary

Sweety’s Diary : How the knot she tied took her life

On June 2, 26-yr-old Asti Shekhar killed herself just three months after her dream marriage to a Wipro techie turned into a nightmare following the revelation of his illicit affair. Asti’s diary which records her travails will be used by the prosecution as evidence in court.
Asti Shekhar, a bubbly, educated, enterprising young woman from Bihar got engaged to Sikandar Abhijeet, also from Bihar but working at Wipro in Bangalore, on Jan 23 this year. Life, as she saw it then, had taken on a rosy hue beyond her wildest imagination – a good-looking, loving husband with a nice job, a new comfortable life in a big city, all the other fruits of happy domesticity, leavened by loads of love, to follow... They got married on Feb 27, and in the next three months all her dreams got shattered.  On June 2, she hung herself. Her father filed a criminal complaint against Abhijeet on June 4, and a few days later, the police arrested him on charges of death caused by dowry harassment.

The police have a diary purportedly written by Asti, mostly in Hindi but throughout in English script, and which diligently records her thoughts and feelings ever since she first met Abhijeet to her final hours. The diary will be produced in court as evidence by the prosecution. We reproduce here a slightly abridged version of it: 

People mentioned in the diary:

Sikandar Abhijeet (Smartu, Mikku)

Asti Shekhar (Sweety)

Papaji and Mummiji
(Abhijeet’s parents)

Papa and Mummy (Asti’s parents)

Shekar (Asti’s brother)

Ramya (Abhijeet’s girlfriend)


  1. going through the diary, her feelings, i felt as if it was all happening to me. There are still so many girls who face this situation. Some adjust, and live a lifeless life, some give up and end their life, but only a few stand up and claim their life. I wish Sweety could have talked to me, or anyone else for that matter. I wish people wont be so cruel to marry even when you have someone else in your life. Its a life your spoiling, not a toy to buy and throw away the next day. I wish i could talk to them all and give them courage to speak up!

    1. Thanks vaishnavi for feeling the pain. I hope everyone can understand this plight someday and true love revives and triumphs over dowry practices. :)

  2. I miss you Asti. I wud hav luvd u a lot!!! Such an amazing gal u r! I respect ur feelings!!!!!!!!! A lot

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